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Discovering Myself While Researching for You

 

I am continually blown away by discoveries I am making about myself and my own life daily now. May seem odd, for a 58-year-old, as this is even way past a “mid-life crisis” stage in life!

Tripping Over Truths

In my research for writing my Reboot book and course, an ongoing project and process for me currently, I am “tripping over a lot of truths.” A wonderful and unexpected benefit of working to prepare these content products to share with all of you, I am learning amazing things about myself.

That is encouraging, as it means 1) I am learning and growing, and 2) I am on the right track to be more able to help others with all of this.

I am reading so many books and papers and articles/blogs these days, my head is spinning. And I LOVE it! This alone illustrates one of my “discoveries” about myself: That I value learning and growth as much now as I ever have. All good.

I am now, what I was when

One thing I wanted to touch on today, is how my early childhood development and experiences have essentially charted out my whole life direction. In my case, it is all about 1) Money and 2) being an authority to influence others.

If I combine those two, it paints a clear picture of how I have lived my life to date. My career has been based on sales. And the sales profession is all about money and being influential. What impressed me most as a child and teenager, and thereafter too, are people who had charisma and spent their lives teaching others how to become the best they can be. Often, for me, this meant how to become financially successful. But it is broader than that.

Motivational Speakers and trainers were my mentors and my heroes. Always have been, and still are today. This is the most consistent dream I have ever held = to become a Motivational Trainer and Speaker “when I grow up.” Well, the time has come. Not sure why now, for me. But in the last 12 months, it has become the focus of my life, not merely a dream any longer. And I am on the path to make this a reality finally, as I enter this new phase of my life.

Everything I have done in my life has been motivated and driven by this dream. And during the prior phases, making Money and Learning was my main focus. That was appropriate both to my stage in life, and to my goals and dreams.

My father was a career Army officer, and my entire childhood seemed to be painted with Dad’s financial ambitions, as well as the monthly stresses of there being too much month left at the end of Dad’s paycheck. He did all kinds of side gigs I can recall, even as early as when I was age 5. Dad earned an MBA while teaching ROTC at West Texas State University in 1963 – a clear indication he had ambitions beyond the military. MBA degrees are about making money, plain and simple.

I Learned to Value Making Money

I was a full “partner” in Dad’s financial adventures from 1970 onward, my being steeped in Dad’s financial dreams, business attempts, and ambition. The only thing I recall my parents “fighting” about, was the shortage of money every month. This impacted me deeply, without realizing it at the time. I apparently decided I did not want to be in that position when I grew up, hurting for money, etc. I am thankful for all of those lessons. And by the way, Dad did make a lot of money with his side businesses before he retired from the Army! And I soaked it all in, willingly and enthusiastically, always participating at every step.

My entire life was influenced by this early influence, and focus on making money. And it is as much a part of me today, as my genetics.

What is your Intelligence(s)?

I read an article recently about a book which discusses the 9 types of intelligence. This resulted in my reading that, and other books on the subject, and performing my own self-analysis to determine what my own strengths are. What an eye-opener. It confirmed exactly what I alluded to above, and what my wife, Ande has ALWAYS stated about me! That I have highly developed skills and “intelligence” in the 4 areas which most contribute to making money and becoming an influential speaker. And this realization, confirms how useful such introspection is, and how important it is for each of us to know ourselves, and understand how aligning our lives with these personal predilections is crucial to our happiness and living a meaningful life. AND, we can change if we want to.

Stay tuned for updates as I continue this journey and the writing of my book(s) and training materials on How To Help Anyone accomplish this type of Life Reboot!

Nature Grounds Us

Looked out my living room window just now and saw this incredible, silent light show by Nature.  Living in the West has benefits, and allows us to have a quieter more peaceful life. Lots of space, no crowds, abundant beauty.

I had a busy day, driving around white-knuckled pulling a large trailer for 5 hours in the icy snow conditions, caught up in the hustle of it all.  This end to my day made the stresses fade away –  sitting by the fire, watching this with a cup of coffee.

The beauty of the Yellowstone Ecosystem and the Rocky Mountains at our Wyoming ranch home, humbles us, daily.

We can always find something to be grateful for, and should actively do so as often as possible. Our attitude creates our reality.

A Glimpse Into the Meaning of Life

Frankl wrote this book in only 9 days in 1946, after surviving 3 years in a Nazi Auschwitz concentration camp of the Holocaust.

The following passage references his experience helping two fellow concentration camp prisoners, and patients, discover a reason to want to live and survive.

One for his child who was not in the camp, and the other to complete a series of books he had started.

Amazing writing and insights.

The book became a multi-million copy bestseller and was recognized in 1991 by the Library of Congress Book-of-the-month Club, as “One of the 10 most influential books in the United States. ” Among other issues, it emphasizes the importance of responsibility to something larger than ourselves.

I can Identify with this philosophy, although not in a religious or dutiful way. I think it intimates that our own individual importance and significance is bound and intertwined with others. Not dependent on others, but made “more” by the inclusion of others in our lives. Helps us consider how important other people are in our lives.

People are the best and the worst influences on each of us. A complicated journey, life.

“This uniqueness and singleness which distinguishes each individual and gives a meaning to his existence has a bearing on creative work as much as it does on human love. When the impossibility of replacing a person is realized, it allows the responsibility which a man has for his existence and its continuance to appear in all its magnitude. A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the “why” for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any “how.

                                                             Viktor Frankl

in Man’s Search for Meaning

Man’s Search for Meaning. An Introduction to Logotherapy, Beacon Press, Boston, MA, 2006. ISBN 978-0-8070-1427-1 (Originally published in 1946).

27 Year Old Has Life All Figured Out

So why listen to her opinion? Why should her words have any weight?

She died of cancer the day after writing this letter on her FaceBook profile.

Her name is Holly Butcher.

She felt this letter was important enough to use her last day on earth, to write it for us.  Take advantage of her gift, read the letter.

The advice from this 27-year-old woman, is as useful and on-point as any I have seen, or could do myself, and I am 31 years OLDER than her.

It is remarkable that someone so young, would have such an intelligent perspective and well-honed sense of priorities.

She really cut thru the “bullshit,” as she puts it.  Deciding what is important in life and how many of us mess this all up and have regrets.

Holly shares lots of specific and general advice on how to live your life to the fullest.

Read Holly’s letter, repeated below.

Thank you Holly.

 

For a well-written post about Holley, go here.

 

Doing the Right Thing…Matters

Music video by Chris Janson. ©2017 Warner Music Nashville LLC.

Choose to do the right thing.

On the 2-hour drive home from work tonight, in icy conditions thru a desolate part of Wyoming, we were listening to country music on the XM radio, and heard a new song that really moved us. “Drunk Girl” was the title, and the emotionally moving subject too. By Chris Janson.

Even without having a daughter, you should be deeply moved and inspired by this message. It chokes me up, I’ll admit it.

It reminds us that we often have the opportunity to choose between taking advantage of a person’s weakness or vulnerabilities, or doing the right thing instead.

Choose the high road, act always as if someone is watching you. How we choose, defines us.

Lyrics
Drunk Girl
Couple cover charge stamps got her hand looking like a rainbow
In and out of every bar on a whim just like the wind blows
She’s either a bachelorette or coming off a breakup
Take a drunk girl home
She’s bouncing like a pinball
Singing every word she never knew
Dancing with her eyes closed like she’s the only one in the room
Her hair’s a perfect mess, falling out of that dress
Take a drunk girl home
Take a drunk girl home
Let her sleep all alone
Leave her keys on the counter, your number by the phone
Pick up her life she threw on the floor
Leave the hall lights on walk out and lock the door
That’s how she knows the difference between a boy and man
Take a drunk girl home
You leave her drive for a dive and you get something bad to eat
They’re singing “Closing Time” at that bar across the street
In two by twos, strangers and lovers headed for the covers, hooking up
That TV in your two bedroom, sound’s turned off
And through the paper-thin walls, you can hear the neighbor’s cigarette cough
There’s a million things you could be doing but there’s one thing you’re sure damn glad you did
Take a drunk girl home
Let her sleep all alone
Leave her keys on the counter, your number by the phone
Pick up her life she threw on the floor
Leave the hall lights on walk out and lock the door
That’s how you know the difference between a boy and man
You take a drunk girl home
You took a drunk girl home
In the sober light of dawn
She left you a message, she thanked you on the phone
‘Cause you picked up her life she threw on the floor
You left the hall lights on walked out and locked the door
That’s how she knows the difference between a boy and man
Take a drunk girl home
You take a drunk girl home
Take a drunk girl home
Songwriters: Chris Janson / Tom Douglas / Travis Hill
Drunk Girl lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Ole Media Management Lp
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Why Do We Do What We Do?

A little of a rant upfront, about Facebook Ads, but some good Life lessons further in this post below!

Something made me consider my own life and motives today, and wanted to share it with my friends and followers. Funny how little experiences can trigger a significant thought and introspective process.

Does this Ad offend you?

Today, my day started with a notification from Facebook (FB) disapproving an advertisement I published last night.  This is not the first time, and my ad accounts have been closed by FB before.  Believe me, it is NOT easy to navigate FB ad guidelines and come up with ad content which is both useful and effective, and acceptable to FB. It is so difficult to navigate, that it makes me think it is not worth the trouble. Note, you can post almost anything on your Profile or Page, but NOT in an Advertisement. FB does not want to be complicit in showing anything to their users via an ad, that might upset their viewers. Understandable, if not offensive in itself, as is most censorship.

Continue reading Why Do We Do What We Do?

Time – Spend It Wisely

One natural life event that makes us think about time, is when a friend passes. The older we get, the more “normal” these events occur. Yesterday, a good friend and fellow rancher, Bill Maute, passed in his sleep. I was travelling all day, so it never sank in to me till this morning, my writing time.

This wonderful video by Meir Kay, features a wise woman, Bill’s same age, sharing some powerful thoughts on life and time.

With a new Year beginning tonight, it is an appropriate opportunity to think about time.

We all have the same amount of time in each day, week, month and year.  No matter how wealthy or successful, nobody has a second more than anyone else.

Continue reading Time – Spend It Wisely

Is your Jar Full of Rocks? or just Sand?

I am going to create my own video version of this someday, but in the meantime, it is just TOO valuable and informative a lesson to wait. Meir Kay did an awesome job producing this video which has had nearly 300 Million views!

This simple, lesson on getting your Life Priorities straight, can start you on your own Journey of Discovery! Enjoy.

A professor stood before his class with some items in front of him.
Beginning the class, he wordlessly picked up a very large & empty mayonnaise jar & proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles & poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. Continue reading Is your Jar Full of Rocks? or just Sand?

Video Training Course Coming Soon!

I am developing a training course about how to reboot your life.  May take me another couple of weeks to complete it. It will be a daily video series, probably 10 days, which will help anyone walk themselves through a complete self-analysis and plan to change their lives.  It is a How-To, Step-by-Step training course, all on streaming Video, which will empower anyone to take their life back.  I cannot wait to share it with all of you!

We get so caught up in our daily lives, often slaves to a misguided philosophy and life orientation, that we lose control and are trapped.  We work harder and smarter, and make more money, only to find ourselves in an even worse off condition. The expected happiness and fulfillment and satisfaction are continually just beyond our reach. Somewhere in the future, never realized.   Continue reading Video Training Course Coming Soon!